One of the reasons
In just described situation you can talk about offense, pain, disappointment, anger, despondency, hatred and about all other feelings which your daughter could test.
One of the reasons on which it needs to be done, is that thus you help it to put feelings into words, but not behavior.
Transition from a rough manner of expression of anger to benevolent and polite will become the following step.
In similar situations you can also help the child to cope with sense of guilt.
There is a probability that the daughter will begin to criticize and accuse herself, in particular if it treats that category of people whom I carry to percent.